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Fall down the Reddit rabbit hole and you're clicks away from everything you'd ever want to know about skincaresleeppregnancyand you might be surprised to learn sex! Of course, you can't believe everything you read online and Reddit sex thre aren't monitored for accuracy—"No offense to Reddit, I do love the site, but it can be a breeding ground for people who think they know everything," says Lisa Finn, a sex educator at sex toy emporium Babeland —but that doesn't mean this cult-favorite site isn't harboring some gems.
So I ran a few of the sex tips by Finn and Lateef Taylora sex educator and sex-positivity advocate, and with their approval, I gave them a try for myself. Scroll down to read about four of the best sex tips I found on Reddit—and what happened when my partner and I tried them. One Reddit user took to the online hub to find out if other people besides he and his wife find mutual masturbation magical. In just five days, over 2, folks took to the post to let him they love it, too. One commenter who has chronic pain notes mutual masturbation is a "godsend" when they're hurting: "I [can] stay comfortable under my heating pad and rest in the nook of my husband's arm and feel really intimate.
What is it about mutual masturbation that makes it as intimate as these Redditters say it is? It's something that's thought of as being done in private or not at all," explains Finn. Sharing that with a partner can be really vulnerable for some," and that shared vulnerability can lead to extreme intimacy," she says.
You can use all of this info to better pleasure your partner down the line. Related: 13 Mind-Blowing Masturbation Tips. VERY convinced to give this tip a try, I pulled out one of my new favorite vibratorsand my partner pulled out the lube. Then, we cued up Bryson Tiller and proceeded to touch ourselves, together.
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Especially when there's eye contact…. If your exposure to BDSM is limited to Fifty Shades of Greyyou might think power-play only involves pain, whips, floggers, or handcuffs. But there's another element you don't see; "aftercare" is something responsible BDSM practitioners do after sex or a scene and, according to some Reddit users, it's something everyone kinky or not should be doing. What is aftercare, exactly? One Reddit user describes aftercare as, "being sweet and tender and present with each other after sex. So, spooning, cuddling, talking softly, asking if they're okay or if they need something.
Sometimes you might both take a nap in each other's arms or hold hands. Other times, wrap each other in blankets or rub each other down while talking.
Finn says that's more or less accurate, adding that aftercare is about making sure both you and your lover feel safe, respected, cared for, and comfortable. In essence, its just spending time together after sex, touching each other lovingly, and engaging in some post-sex analysis.
As a self-acknowledged workaholic, it can be hard for me to make time for sex, let alone post-sex cuddles. I could stand to incorporate a little more aftercare into my sexytime routine—especially considering my boo's love language is words of affirmation and physical touch.
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Here's how to talk about it—and other convos for a healthy sex life. One Sunday after toying around with some new pleasure products, my partner and I decided to give more intentional aftercare a try.
We spent hours appreciating, spooning, and loving on each other. Also, I got a massage, which was clutch. The consensus among Redditors is that shower sex is, well, awful, and best left to the movies. Despite this seemingly universal stance against shower sex, there's a whole thread of tips on making it better. Considering my partner and I regularly shower together but rarely engage in hanky-panky while there, we decided to give one of the tips a try: Replace penetrative shower play with foreplay.
And because water washes off the body's natural lubricant, penetration can become downright uncomfortable, she says. But "taking penetrative vaginal and anal sex off the table isn't just a smart safety measure," says Taylor. It was so fun, we tried it again that same daybut also brought in a waterproof vibrator. The final verdict?
Non-penetrative shower sex is way steamier than regular shower sex. Ever worried about asking a casual fling in advance if you'll be spending the night? Reddit users have a solution : Make a little baggie of hygiene and sex products you might want for a night or romp away from home.
In the viral thread, over 2, Reddit users took to the comments to share what's stashed in their sex sacks.
While some just keep hygiene products like face wash, deodorant, and a toothbrush, others include extra panties, lube, and sex toys—the later of which Finn and Taylor think is best. While many of the Reddit users keep their sex sacks in their cars, Finn notes that condoms and lubes can get ruined by extreme heat.
So if you live someplace warm, make sure to swap the condom for new ones after stretches of sweltering heat. Although my partner and I are serious enough that I'm not worried about asking any q's in advance, I love idea of having my fave pleasure products with me—and after last night, let's just say I'm glad I did.
If you're curious what other sex tips are floating around Reddit, I recommend scrolling through this threadwhich houses close to 2, tips on how to pleasure your partner. Just keep in mind, "what works for one person may not work for you and your partner ," says Finn. And for a constant stream of expert-vetted! By Gabrielle Kassel January 13, Each product we feature has been independently selected and reviewed by our editorial team.
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